ipper dinner. Blowjob. Giving head. Cunnilingus. Smoking a sausage. These are just some of the numerous names for the act of using your mouth and tongue to pleasure and stimulate your significant other’s genitals, or in other words — oral sex.
Once used to be a taboo subject, oral intercourse now is a common form of sexual activity which has a distinct place in many people’s mind. Whether you see it as foreplay before penetrative sex or as the main event in your bedroom, it can be one of the most pleasurable aspects of hooking up. Even though some have argued that yamming is actually more intimate than traditional boom-boom time, since it requires you to get lost in the most personal part of someone’s body.
If you’re new to oral games, there’re things you should probably know in advance, and if you’re performing blowjob or cunnilingus like a pro, you can still learn a little something that you may not have thought about before. Here’s what you need to know.
First things first: Safety
You know about using condoms to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections during penetrative intercourse, but the reality is, protection also matters during oral sex – even though the fact is sometimes ignored. Yes. It’s safer, but it’s not totally safe. Just think about it: heading down puts you into contact with skin and body fluids (semen or vaginal fluids), any of which can contain the disease. So, before the fun begins, you must ask yourself, ‘How can I make oral sex safer?
The key to making safe oral experience is to avoid mouth-to-genital contact. If you’re giving an oral for a man, you should consider using a condom. A rubber in the mouth? Does anyone really do that? The short answer is — yes. There’s no risk of unwanted pregnancy, you still can contract an infection from a partner’s fluids.
If you’re going to use standard condoms for oral sex, unlubricated ones are the way to go. Dry Johnnies don’t have the unpleasant taste of the lubricant during the ‘adventurous travel’ or post oral kissing, and are also ideal for people with an allergy to a lube. Plus, in change-your-mind case, you always have the power to choose your own lube.
While some people don’t like the taste of the lubricant, another hate the taste of the latex — after all, putting a condom in your mouth is a little different from having one in your Lady V. So, there’s a wide array of flavored condoms out there that are great for oral pleasures, as well. With flavored rubbers, there’s no bad taste. Some condoms can even taste like bubblegum, pina colada, strawberries, grapes, and more. A wide variety, ranging from fruity to spicy, will satisfy even the pickiest tastes.
However, it doesn’t have to be unenjoyable or uncomfortable. For going down on women, strong, thin sheets of latex called oral dams can be used to stop the fluid exchange. Featuring the shape of a small square or rectangle, dental dams offer a secure option for lovebirds who rely on oral sexual stimulation as a major part of their romantic lives.
I guess you’re wondering now, ‘Can you even find dental dams in a store?’ Well, they may not be as easily accessible in your local mini-mart as condoms, but hey, that’s what WorldCondoms is for. Giving or receiving yamming while using a barrier method will be a little different. They are available in a variety of fun colors and fruity flavors including vanilla, strawberry, wild berry, and cola.
Tips on giving oral
Theoretically, oral sex is something like closing an envelope: spit, lick, and repeat. But you know what? No tea, no shade — there’s such a thing as bad mouthjob, even though everyone gets a participation trophy for the efforts. So, if you’re just always trying to improve all the horny aspects of your life, having a few go-to tips in your back pocket will turn any sack session into a fun, and steamy, experience.
Communication is key
Doing an oral can mean different things for different people, so you may not feel all that tingly goodness in the same area as another person. Since that’s the case, don’t be afraid to tell your partner if something isn’t working for you. Communicating with your partner and listening to their direction is what makes the whole process the way it's supposed to be for you two. After all, if you’re going down, you should do it in the right way.
Get creative with positions
Do you and your partner always end up doing the same moves in bed? There’s a common misconception that, when it comes to oral sex positions, there isn’t an array of variety. However, there are other options besides laying on your back. Involve sitting in a chair, laying on your belly between your partner’s legs, use your fantasy to each other.
Going down on a person can feel like you have a new superpower when she or he is all blissed out after you’ve rocked their world. However, if you don’t feel confident you can please your partner, you may spoil what should otherwise be a pleasurable and sexy experience for both of you. Your attitude when you initiate an oral should be that you love to do this and you enjoy giving one. If you show enthusiasm for it, your partner will be super excited and more relaxed which makes her or him climax easier. Stop thinking of it as a job.
Use your hands
Your Lady V or partner’s penis isn’t the only star in the bedroom. You have 10 functional tools just waiting to be used: your fingers. Hands can add so much creativity to sensuality — you can use them to control the depth and show other parts of their body some extra love. Pretend you’re an artist, drawing every edge and crease of beloved one’s body with your finger. Main tips — work with the hands before placing your mouth on the penis and don’t be afraid to rub woman’s clit with your thumb.
Add some variety
Life’s too short for oral that’s just meh. Whether you’re going down on a man or a woman, you can’t just stick to one technique. Just because a person has been enjoying something in the past doesn’t mean his or her tastes won’t change in the future. Make sure you experiment with different levels of pressure, licking, or sucking and gauge your beloved one’s reaction throughout doing this.
It's OK if you're not perfect at giving your bae a blowjob or cunnilingus. You'll get better the more you do it. In the meantime, enthusiasm goes a long way. There’s probably no ideal list of steps or tips where every item will appeal to every person. So, take what you like and leave the rest for others.